Sunday, August 16, 2009

SHE BROUGHT ME FLOWERS



And so my eyes lit up, grew large with surprise and delight as she came through the door holding flowers, flowers she bought for me!! Gladiolas, long, lovely, vibrant colored gladiolas. My heart sang and lifted when I saw her, so happy, with food bags and flowers in her arms. She brought lunch. :-) - honey ham and wunderbar bologna (my favorite), American cheese and fresh bakery rolls - and assorted cakes - carrot cake, a canoli, a cream and fruit filled croissant, a chocolate frosted brownie. And so we gathered, at the table - the very table in these pictures. My daughter, my Mom, my grandson, and my daughter's fairly new boyfriend. A bigger delight and surprise that made my heart sing? I like him - the boyfriend. It has been a while since I could join in and enjoy her choices in boyfriends. If you read back through some posts like "The Intruder" you will get the idea. But this guy, I like. First he has a beautiful smile and really good eye-contact and a warm and firm had shake. I watched Jo'el and him interact - it was warm and funny and 'guy-like' in the best of ways. And I watched my daughter be herself, so funny, relaxed, playful, and free. He showed her appropriate affection and she reveled in his touch - and I watched how he looked at her - oh my - my heart filled with joy. He adores her.
So yes, I was so delighted by the flowers and the lunch served - but I am thrilled and so relieved about their relationship and how happy all of them looked and acted. Everyone was so comfortable and free to just "be". There aren't enough flowers, pounds of bologna, honey ham and cheese, rolls and pastry to equal the joy I felt because of my daughter's and grandson's happiness and freedom. They were, in the past, in prison. I tried to get them out and I couldn't. Mainly because she did not want to be freed. I couldn't give her that desire - she had to create it for herself - the waiting was horrid - but she did it - she found the key to free herself and her son from "The Intruder" . It was a glorious day. I gave her a card -one of those singing Hallmark cards with some lines from this song -



I don't know where this relationship will go I just know that I am at ease knowing that my daughter and grandson are happy, safe, and free. Now, the new boyfriend, that I like, has to get a freaking job. Always something, huh? :-)

Love Gail
peace.....

23 comments:

Rose Marie Raccioppi said...

What a spirited post - the message of the song - so much of what you have expressed in many a way:

"I will survive... I know how to love... Life to live... Love to give..."

"And I watched my daughter be herself, so funny, relaxed, playful, and free. He showed her appropriate affection and she reveled in his touch - and I watched how he looked at her - oh my - my heart filled with joy. He adores her."

No greater Joy hath a mother's heart! A bouquet of endless bloom!

Diana said...

Hi Gail,
It's so nice when we like the boyfriend isn't it? I went through the same thing with my oldest daughter and I will say that I love the boyfriend. So lets keep our fingers and toes crossed and say many prayers for both of our daughters happiness this time!!
Oh and by the way, you just made me really hungry! Love Di

Gail said...

Hi Diana-
Yes, lets. My fingers and toes are crossed for our daughters happiness and therefore our delight and peace of mind. And the food really was so yummy.
And I also have an older daughter - lives a ways away, upstate NY - her journey is amazing.

Love to you
Gail
peace

Gail said...

Hi Rose Marie-
I love how you write (speak) to me.
Brought atear to my eye, - of joy.
Thank you Rose Marie for your endless blooms that you share.

Love to you
Gail
peace.....

Utah Savage said...

This was so lovely to read. I share your hope and joy for your daughter and grandson.

Gail said...

Hi Utah-

Thanks so much. I am so happy to have you visit me. :-)

Love Gail
peace.....

Bernie said...

What a happy post, am praying that the boyfriend finds a job and all will live happy ever after, even mom......:-) Hugs

Gail said...

Hi Bernie-

Thanks for visiting. Yup, happily ever after, indeed. ALways so nice to have you stop by.


Love Gail
peace......

The-Grizzled-But-Still-Incorrigible-Scribe-Himself! said...

Flowers, a good meal, good news (the boyfriend), being with family…sounds to me like a great multi-blessing day!

I'm glad for you, truly.

Gail said...

Hi Grizz-

A great multi-blessing day indeed. :-)

So nice to see you here.

Love Gail
peace.....

PENolan said...

Say a prayer for me while you're at it, okay? I could use a good boyfriend.

Gail said...

Hi Trish-

Absolutely - consider it done! :-)

Love you girl
Gail
peace.....

Mark said...

Sounds like you had a wonderful feast of life! Your love for everyone is so powerful! Your love gives your daughter wings!

Gail said...

Hi Mark-

Oh I gasped right out loud. Such a lovely compliment you gave me, that my love gives my daughter wings. Oh my I truly gasped in delight. "Thank you Mark".

Love Gail
peace.....

Eileen said...

Oh, Gail, I'm so happy for you, your daughter, and most of all your grandson! And I'll keep them in my prayers.
It must be such a wonderful feeling of relief, such a wonderful feeling of freedom. I can just imagine how you must be soaring, heart and soul!
Love and Prayers,
Eileen

Margie said...

The flowers are so lovely & your post brought a smile to me!
Thank you!

Margie:)

Gail said...

@MARGIE-
So glad my post made you smile.
:-)

Love Gail
Peace

@EILEEN-
Oh yes, soaring indeed. And I SO appreciate your prayers and happy words to me/

Love Gail
peace.....

cinner said...

let me introduce myself, I read your august 14th post and can really relate to you especially in regards to your fatigue, I have severe cataplexy which is a variant of Narcolepsy as well as fluid on the brain. I had to fight for two years to get disability as it was not one of the 25 diseases that are covered at least here in Canada, I had to take them to court and I won, Very hard when you are ill to have to proove it. sometimes the doubt of others can be worse than the illness. I wish you all the best and have become a follower. I like your blog, as we go forward, Take care.

Gail said...

Hi Cinner and WELCOME!!

I am so glad you came by. :-)

I am thrilled that you won your case. And sorry you had to fight for what is yours to have.
I will go over to your place and I look forward to a wonderfl friendship with you.

Love Gail
peace.....

Wanda said...

Your happiness was easily felt Gail...we need good men for our daughters don't we...Your last sentences were funny...made me smile even more!

Gail said...

HI Wanda-

It is such a relief when I know my girls are with guys that adore them and that have values similar to those she was raised in. Ad ya, the last lines are a hoot, huh? If he could just get a job!!! :-)

Loved Gail
peace......

cinner said...

Hi gail, I wrote about you on my post how much you made my day and I put a link to your blog. You may want to check it out. I hope you can inspire others like you do me. The phrase I talked about is the most relevant thing I have heard in six years to me anyway. I thankyou for now realizing how I had been feeling. My link is
http://thingsaboutwhowhatwhenwhereandwhy.blogspot.com/ or it is listed on the other blog that you follow. Thanks

Gail said...

Hi Cinnner=

"Thank you" so much. I am so happy that you felt inspired. I am headed over to your plce now.

Love to you
Gail
peace.....

p.s. and I have no idea how to 'linkk'. :-)