Sunday, August 16, 2009
And so my eyes lit up, grew large with surprise and delight as she came through the door holding flowers, flowers she bought for me!! Gladiolas, long, lovely, vibrant colored gladiolas. My heart sang and lifted when I saw her, so happy, with food bags and flowers in her arms. She brought lunch. :-) - honey ham and wunderbar bologna (my favorite), American cheese and fresh bakery rolls - and assorted cakes - carrot cake, a canoli, a cream and fruit filled croissant, a chocolate frosted brownie. And so we gathered, at the table - the very table in these pictures. My daughter, my Mom, my grandson, and my daughter's fairly new boyfriend. A bigger delight and surprise that made my heart sing? I like him - the boyfriend. It has been a while since I could join in and enjoy her choices in boyfriends. If you read back through some posts like "The Intruder" you will get the idea. But this guy, I like. First he has a beautiful smile and really good eye-contact and a warm and firm had shake. I watched Jo'el and him interact - it was warm and funny and 'guy-like' in the best of ways. And I watched my daughter be herself, so funny, relaxed, playful, and free. He showed her appropriate affection and she reveled in his touch - and I watched how he looked at her - oh my - my heart filled with joy. He adores her.
So yes, I was so delighted by the flowers and the lunch served - but I am thrilled and so relieved about their relationship and how happy all of them looked and acted. Everyone was so comfortable and free to just "be". There aren't enough flowers, pounds of bologna, honey ham and cheese, rolls and pastry to equal the joy I felt because of my daughter's and grandson's happiness and freedom. They were, in the past, in prison. I tried to get them out and I couldn't. Mainly because she did not want to be freed. I couldn't give her that desire - she had to create it for herself - the waiting was horrid - but she did it - she found the key to free herself and her son from "The Intruder" . It was a glorious day. I gave her a card -one of those singing Hallmark cards with some lines from this song -
I don't know where this relationship will go I just know that I am at ease knowing that my daughter and grandson are happy, safe, and free. Now, the new boyfriend, that I like, has to get a freaking job. Always something, huh? :-)
Posted by Gail at 9:43 AM