Thursday, January 14, 2010


I heard her say, "I Love You". She had no idea how my heart sang, soared, lightened when I heard her say those words to her sister. Those words speak volumes to a Mother's heart.

They were planning their upcoming visit - Jen is driving to upstate NY today with her son to spend a few days with Kristie and her kids. Each of my girls is in their own despair and hurt. Kristie is pregnant, and the baby's father is gone. It was not a good ending and caused much harm. Kristie has to go to court today to speak to the prosecutor where he is appearing before the judge to answer to the 'charges'. I stayed as close to Kristie and the kids as I could given the distance. She pays a price for her decision to live so far away from 'home'. Her feeling alone during this very difficult time is especially costly. :-( Truly, everything does have a price,

Jen is in pain because the man she loves is "confused" and unsure if he wants to be with her. Her heart is broken. He is chipping away at her as he tries to justify why he doesn't love her - (truth be told, he simply is an irresponsible jerk and wants to live with his Mommy and Daddy - he is 32), - and he had the cowardly balls to say to her it is because "it annoys me that you can't spell and you make up words"!! - that hurt me so much to hear her crying over his insults - her "funny words" and unique way of spelling are precious. He is such an idiot and I feel so badly for her. Good Lord. anyway,

It warms my heart that my daughters are going to be together for a few days to give each other hope, support and love as only sisters can. To know that they are close is a gift to me - to know that they are 'there' for each other is a gift to me. To know that in good times and bad they will find their way to one another is a gift to me. To know, to hear, to see to feel that they love one another is a gift to me. HUGE gift. :-)

I can only do so much - listen, love, pray, advise if asked, offer suggestions, remind them of their strength and worth and beauty - and do nothing to control - give the reigns over to them as I stand on the side line cheering and shouting "this way!, that way! watch out!, be careful! I love you"!!!!!!!! "I love you, I love you, I love you................................"

I sang this song to all of my children and grandchildren - they all know it quite well. In fact, there were times when their babies were fussy and they woud say to me, "Mom, sing the "Walk in the rain" song to _________", and it worked like a charm every time. :-) Enjoy. (I have posted this song before).


Diana said...

Oh I so feel for you Gail. When our children are in pain or heartache, we feel it as if it were us going through it. You are a good mother and you are doing what you can from where you are. That is all that we as mothers can do.
Love Di

Whitemist said...

Those are though things, but it is far better to be away from someone who belittles you. The other will have to become financially responsible no matter what. The emotional price is sad.
An ex of a friend of mine said to her that he had "moved on" and had his own life. The courts made him responsible for his children, but not her heart.

Margie said...

Sounds like your girls share a special bond and love for each other!
That is wonderful!
That must give you much comfort!

Have a good weeeknd, Gail.
Peace be with you!


goatman said...

As you guide these folks, I wish you the best of knowledge and experience with which to advise.
Life could always be worse, I have found . . . We could live in Haiti!!
An inspired new year to you.

Gail said...

Thanks for your love and support - Jen arrived to her sisters safely so all is well. :-) They will have a good time together and that makes me very happy.

Love to you

Gail said...


Thanks Joey for your kindness an wisdom. And I always said that the courtroom has no heart - :-( I guess that is for the best.

Jen arrived safely to her sisters. They will take care of one another and for that I am grateful.

Love to you

Gail said...


So nice to see you. I eel you warmth instantly. And yes, they have a strong bond and in that I do find comfort and peace.

ENjoy your weekend

Love to you

Gail said...


Thank you for your words of support and encouragement.

Love Gail

Choices said...

Hi Gail,
It is so wonderful that your daughters have such a bond and they are there for each other. A good mother always feels pain when your children are in pain. Know that you are a good mother and your children know that.
Take care.

Mark said...

Everyone enters our lives and the lives of our children for a reason. Although the lesson may seem to come at us sideways or in a mean way there are lessons. Thanks for sharing the video. Enjoy your daughters!

Gail said...

Yes, the lessons. It seems though that they have attended the class with these exact lessons being taught several times. I suppose it takes what it takes to finally 'learn'. And I know you are right :-) And yet, as their Mom I want them to 'learn the lesson and pass the course'. :-)

Love you

Gail said...


Yes their bond is wonderful and strong.

And ya, I know they know I am a good Mom. :-)

Love Gail

Bernie said...

Your mother's heart must swell with pride as your daughters reach out to each other....just knowing they will be there for each other is wonderful.
You are a good mom Gail, enjoy your girls and know there are no such things as coincidence, everything happens for a reason and your girls being so close is all that matters.....lovely video and I can picture you singing to your children and grandchildre.
.......:-) Hugs

Wanda said...

Hopefully they will commiserate with each other and know they are better off without men, of that nature.
Where are the John Denvers for this younger generation of women. I say that jokingly, but he and his songs were a good example of what we want for our daughters.
I can't listen to "Country Roads" without it bringing down some tears.

Gail said...


Thank you so much for your wisdom and kindness - and yes, this mother's heart is full of joy that my girls are together. ANd I know my friend that everything happens for a reason - phew.

Love to you'

Gail said...


Where are the 'John Denver's is so right?? Wow. I love his music - I even have a Christmas album of his called "Aspenglow". Love it!! :-) Hopefully they will empower each other to realize that they are okay without a man - My goodness.

Thanks for your love and support
Love Gail

Eileen said...

This is sweet, Gail. Even with hearing of all their heartaches that your daughters are dealing with, it's the love that comes through this post.
Your girls are Blessed to have each other and to appreciate each other, I'm sure you realize that because of your own relationship with your sister.

My girls are not close at all, it makes me very sad because I am very close with both my sisters and I know what they are missing out on. You are right to savor their relationship.
Love to you,

Gail said...


Thank you so much for your kind and loving support. And yes, it is so wonderful that my girls are so close. I, like you, know the value of that. I was sorry to read that your daughters are not close. :-(

Kris and Jen are taking all the kids snow mobiling today. Cool, huh? :-)

Love you

Comrade Kevin said...

Holding you all in the Light, Gail.

Gail said...


"thank you" SO much.......

Love Gail

sarah said...

this is so gentle, so soothing. Sarah

Gail said...


So nice to have you come by and follow!! I am thrilled. I will go over to your place soon.
And I am glad you were soothed.

Love Gail

Iktomi said...

my sister and i are best friends. :) i was on the outs with my family a few years ago, but it feels so good to be able to open up to them again. family really is very important.

Gail said...


So nice to see you - and you are so right - sisters and family are SO important. And I am always in awe of your wisdom, so young and SO wise. :-)

Love Gai

Denise said...

So very precious.

Lola said...

sounds like you are a wonderful mum.
It must be tough to see your daughters in pain but the fact that they support each other is great.
Everything will work out well.

Susan said...

I join you in prayer for your two daughters. As you say, Thank God their sisterly love is in tact.

SmilingSally said...

Bad choices lead to so much pain. I'm truly sorry.

Gail said...




hello to you all and welcome. I so appreciate your visiting and your kindness and understanding and prayers. I will stop by alof oyur blogs soon.

Love Gail

Gail said...


thanks for your kind words and validation. It means a lot. Hope you are well.
Love Gail

Ginger~~Enchanting Cottage said...

I love that song In The Arms of an Angle. We played it at my sister in-laws funeral. As parented we need to have these conversations with our children.