Sunday, April 10, 2011

A song remembered

We picked up my Mom from dialysis yesterday.  With Skipp off from work we are happy to do this each Saturday.  It  is now part of our routine, rhythm so to speak.  She enjoys a weekly burger, fries and a root beer soda after leaving dialysis - that is in the rhythm as well.  :-)

She is very weak after her treatment.  Skipp had to lift her in to the car as her legs just couldn't hold her. It hurts my heart to see her so weakened.  sigh...........   She chatters all the way home about her treatment - not  unlike someone with PTSD from a trauma of some sort.  This too is hard to hear, feel, know.  She is so very brave. so gentle, so fragile and loving.  And she maintains a lovely grace and confidence that fills me with joy.  It is all so bittersweet.

When we arrived at her home my sister joined us for a nice visit -lots of laughs and some trips down memory lane. We recalled quite vividly when my sister and I took dance lessons and how all of our relatives came to our recitals.  I started when I was three!  We remembered one recital in particular and how the finale was just wonderful.  Miss Connie, our  instructor was a woman of large stature, long red wavy hair and profound talent and Broadway beauty and style.

We all began to sing the song from that finale - , "The Best Things In Life Are Free" -




Enjoy.................and keep on singing and dancing.
  

32 comments:

Finding Pam said...

Gail, I am sorry to hear about your Mom's weakness. She is brave in her fight for life. I can't imagine how difficult that must be for you to see her in decline.

These are the moments that will see you through. Peace and love to you.

Choices said...

This post truly touched my heart. Your mom is so lucky to have you as her daughter. Yes, enjoying those special moments will be in our hearts always.
Take care.

Bernie said...

I love how good you, Skipp and your sister are so good to your mom. You really appreciate her while she is still with you. The new normal of burgers, fries and root beer made me smile. I hope you all can keep enjoying each other, laughter filled memories always to all of you......:-)Hugs

Gail said...

@PAM- so nice to see you. Yes, she is very brave and still loves life. Yesterday will remain in my heart always.

@CHOICES-ANNE - I feel like the lucky one Anne - she is a gift every day - one of the best Mom's ever. I adore her and special memories like yesterday.

@BERNIE- We all love, honor and admire her for all that she is, does, still teaches us and all of her wisdom. And I am so glad her ritual of a burger, fries and a root beer made you smile - she will be 88 and I think it is wonderful :-)
Thanks Bernie for sharing n this special memory with me.

Love to you all
Gail
peace.....

Eileen said...

The best things in life really are free!

It's funny how the "so abnormal" becomes just a part of our routine. I guess it's a way of the heart/soul protecting itself.

I'm glad for the beautiful moments you still get to share, and that you still enjoy each other while storms rage all about you. Really beautiful.
Love and Prayers,
Eileen

Cinner said...

I am glad you are able to go and be with her on Saturdays. I know it must be very hard to see your Mom get weak. It is great to share all the memories and to laugh at them all. ...what kind of dancing....you know if I had any children I would want them to be like you. you are always so loving and caring. we are blessed my friend. hugs to you. lots of love.

Shen said...

This time with your mom seems so sweet... cherished. It's honoring to her to be with her in the hard times as you are.

thanks for the music

Wanda..... said...

Ahhh...the memories you are creating will give you such comfort someday, Gail. The last months of caring for my own mother, while knowing those days were limited, have given me such peace of mine, no regrets of not appreciating that time we spent together. Those simple rituals like hamburger, fries and rootbeer become so special to look back on and smile!

Gail said...

@EILEEN-

thank you for your kind words of deep understanding. These are truly special times, engrained in my heart and soul.

@CINNER- WOW! tht is such a great compliment that if you had children you would want them to be like me!! Oh my I am blushing and smiling :-) The dancing? Tap and ballet! Yup.
I so love that you are sharing in these special times with me and my Mom.

@SHEN_

SO nice to have you share in these precious moments. ANd that word honor is so true. Thank you for knowing.

@WANDA-
Oh how I know you know of creating special memories and I feel blessed to have you share in mine with my Mom. And that you share the same of your time with yours.

Love to you all
Gail
peace.....

Margie said...

A touching post, Gail.
Your mom is blessed to have a wonderful and caring daughter like you!
Your post takes me back to another time, another place ...
I rememeber when my mother-in-law was gravely ill and dying with cancer, my husband & I moved in with her and I took care of her.
I got so close to her and I treasure all the wonderful memories I have of her.
She was such a dear and gentle lady!
I miss her very much!

I am sorry you mom is going through
this difficult time now!
Enjoy and treasure the time you spend with her, it's a blessing!
Gail, I wish you joy!
I wish you peace!
I wish you love!( may you always be surrounded with love!)

Hugs

Margie

Gail said...

MARGIE-

thank you so much for your heart felt words to me and for sharing of your special time with your mother-in-law.It is all so wonderful and all so sad at the same time.
Love to you
Gail
peace.....

Pranavam Ravikumar a.k.a. Kochuravi said...

Great Gail. One beautiful thing abt this blogging is to get to know all these beautiful things. Great thanks... I am full. :-))

Gail said...

PRANAVAN-

thank you so much for your kind words and sharing in these wonderful moments with my Mom :-)
Love Gail
pace.....

Diana said...

What a beautiful post Gail. You made me think of my own mother who was always graceful and ladylike no matter the situation. We can only hope to be like them right?
I think it's wonderful that your mom gets her tasty treat after her dialysis, good to have something to look forward too and I'm sure it tastes wonderful to her!
Ah how about you sing that song to us now!! Love Di ♥

Gail said...

DIANA-

I know how much you understand and appreciate these special moments/memories with my Mom. SHe is a gem and so beautiful, And I would love to sing the song for all of you. :-) "The Best Things In Life Are Free"..
Love Gail
peace......

Tramp said...

The wonderful thing for me here is how you can emphasize the sweet in the bittersweet. Thank you.
...Tramp

Gail said...

HI TRAMP
so good to see you. I always ty to remember that the bitter and the sweet co-exist. :-)

Love to you
Gail
peace.....

SE'LAH... said...

Oh Gail,

Sending positive, healing vibes your mom's way. May she have the strength to endure her treatments. Prayers sent up.

Nice to hear Hubby is working. Hope you are well.

One love

Gail said...

Hi SE'LAH-

thank you so much for your love and prayers for my Mom. She is SO brave. And not sure why you think Skipp is working,he is still unemployed. It's all ok though :-)

Love to you
Gail
peace.....

Lola said...

Hei Gail,
Happy Easter to you and your wonderful family.
Lots of love

Gail said...

HI LOLA-

thanks SO much, and the same to you and yours :-)
Love Gail

peace....

Pranavam Ravikumar a.k.a. Kochuravi said...

Belated Easter Wishes!

Teresa said...

Enjoy your mom, as I can tell you do. I so wish I had spent more time with my dad before he passed. I have been so busy with work and trying to make ends meet. It had been weeks since I had visited. Selfish I know, and no excuse, as we are all busy. Good on you! Blessings!!! T

Gail said...

HI TERESA Oh please go easy on yourself, k? I am sure your Dad knew how much you loved him. My Dad passed in 1984 -
Love to you
Gail
peace.....

Gail said...

PRANAVAM--
And a blessed Happy Easter to you and yours :-)
Love Gail
peace.....

Theanne and Baron said...

Prayers for your Mom you and your brother! How wonderful that you have this time together! Her menu choice reminded me of Don, his was an Italian sub with a coke or chocolate shake...*smile* "The best things in life are free"...I haven't heard that song in years...it's so true! Thank you so much for sharing it! Sweet peace be yours Gail.

Tramp said...

Gail
Saw your comments over at Grizz's place. You are so right that tears can cleanse.
...Tramp

Gail said...

THEANNE- so nice ot see you and I truly appreciate your kindness. Glad you liked the song. :-) And FYI? Skipp is my husband, not my brother! :-)
I assume Don is your husband, yes? And his choice in favorite foods sound yummy.
Love to you
Gail
peace......

Gail said...

HI TRAMP-
thanks for the visit and 'knowing' :-)
love to you
Gail
peace.....

Shen said...

hope all is well

Just Be Real said...

A post that has touched my heart Gail. Fighting for ones life is the ultimate. Praying for strength for all.

Gail said...

HI JBR-
Yes, it is all about the 'fight' to survive. So good to see you.

HEY SHEN- I ma a bit under the weather, some MS symptoms I am working on relieving. phew.

Love to you both
Gail
peace....