Monday, August 11, 2008

The Journey from Acceptance to Surrender

Hi to all who find their way here..

The journey from acceptance to surrender. It can be long or short, depending on what it is one is dealing with. Winning the lotto? Pretty quick journey! Being betrayed by someone you love? A longer and more difficult journey. Agreed?

For the sake of this writing let's all agree that acceptance happens in our heads. It is a conflict of thoughts; bargaining, arguing, angering, resisting, denying, fighting, wishing, praying, begging, raging - getting the picture? It is pure chaos!

So what of surrender then? It happens deep inside. It is a total experience and captures our essence and core. It is: a relief, peaceful, hopeful, freeing, pure, cleansing, and has a new direction. New direction? Yes. A new direction. Stay with me here.

So what is the problem?

ANGER AND FEAR are the blocks that keep people stuck in the chaos of acceptance. It is so hard to break through those two emotions and on to surrender. Anger at whomever or whatever. Fear of the unknown. And so people run, from themselves, going to great lengths to separate themselves from themselves, up to and including death. Yes death. I see it all the time. Sad huh? Very sad, indeed.

So okay, you stop running, you face "IT", whatever it is and you stand naked right in "IT". Now what? It is you and "IT", the very "IT" or "IT's" you have spent a life time hiding.
Guess what? "It" never goes away. "IT" is part of you, part of the fabric of your design, that which defines you. Hah! It is yours to hold on to, not let go of. And how do you respond? You can never change the meaning of your "it's" but you CAN add another meaning to "IT".

For example: MADD - do you think the horror and tragedy for those Mom's and Dad's that lost their children to drunk drivers will ever go away? Never. not in a million years. And so they created MADD to add another meaning to their tragic losses. Never ever disregarding the original horror, if they did there would be no MADD, right?

And so the challenge for all of us is to honor our truths for what they are and then add another meaning to them to bring purpose and light to our truths, our "It's" never possible had these IT's not occurred.

Over time I will write of my "IT's", over time..............mean while, let's honor all of our truths and "IT's and begin to find ways to add another meaning to their existence.

Peace and truth..............


Anonymous said...

Hi Gail,

Bring out your "it(s)" without judgment or blame. We are all learning here in the Earth school.


Gail said...

Good to see you again....:-)

What is the earth school?

And yes, I will, I promise. I know it is the way to 'free' others. I have a few more concepts to preface so hang in as I too become familiar with this forum and lovely folks such as yourself.

Peace and truth

Kate Morningstar said...

Hi, Gail -- saw you in the comments at MadPriest's and came over.

I got fear of everything, and was convinced early in life that I wasn't supposed to have been born and was taking up space on the planet I wasn't entitled to. Urg.

Dealing with the It? When my Mum was ill, there wasn't time to give Fear. After she died, I realized that the only meaning to her death would be the meaning I gave it, and how I behaved after. And now, when I recognize that Fear is back in the neighbourhood, one of the ways to deal with it is to recognize that it's always fear of the future, and the future's imaginary. So I tell someone, and God, and then I find something to do that keeps me right here in the present. That works, until it stops, and then I do it again.

Nice to meet you.

Gail said...

Hello Kate Morningstar,
Lovely name and I am so glad you happened by. Welcome.
That is a tragic message you were taught about your birth. Delete it. You have purpose here. Your birth and life are a celebration, including the "It's".

Why do you spell 'fear' with a capital "F"? Curious is all.

And sorry to hear pf your Mum's passing. And concerned that fear is back in your neighborhood. Stay under the radar, but remain proud and purposeful.
Write any time. I am here.

peace and hope for us all

Fallen Angel said...

'stuck in the chaos'?

While you waltz along on the path of shared pain and humiliation, try to remember that chaos is the only clean place to recover from. When you try to recover within any 'preconceived' framework, you are doomed to fail. Banish your Its, do not embrace them. I mean you don't try to save a child's life when accidently poisoned, by giving him/her the rest of the bottle, do ya?

Gail said...

Fallen Angel,

For me there is chaos when I try to abandon my 'it's. And I walk/waltz no path of pain or humiliation, not any more.

I had a day with "it" after years of not, Remember? I CHOSE to feel one of my "it's". The fact that I could choose to have a day with "it" is a gift. And it is only in embracing "it" that I could do just that.

And the example of the poison? Of course one would not give the child the rest of the poison. It is not the same Fallen Angel,not the same.

I do appreciate your insights and way of looking at things. I am always open to other ways of healing.

Considering my "it's", I think I am doing all right.


Mark said...

This is very well done. Yes, we can add to our "it's". MADD is a great example of how good can come from that which we view as tragic. Acceptance and surrender are critical to our growth, for until we do both we are stuck and doomed to repeat the same lessons over and over until we get "it" and come to a point of acceptance, surrender and learning. We are so much more powerful than we believe. Love is who and what we are. When we accept this then all other acceptance and surrender falls into place.